“Been there, done that”, is used to communicate that either I or others have either physically or emotionally walked the same path. To me it comes across as a bit harsh, brash and un-sympathetic. Often we use it to implicitly indicate “tick that one, onto the next”. If all we did is “collect the t-shirt”, then I wonder how deep and caring a person are we.
When I am confronted or hear of others who are walking a journey of trails, that I too have walked, then what is my response? I read of a 14 year old girl who has committed suicide due to the pressure of bullying. I remember those times when Mike was bullied. I remember those initial hours of disbelief that Mike died (no connection between bullying and his death), my point, I have “been there done that”. . But what am I going to do with that experience? How do I respond when I hear of others around me experiencing the pain, anguish, situation or trial I have?
I am of the conclusion that practical demonstration is so powerful to show love. That practical demonstration could be simply presence, or an uncomplicated regular phone call, doing some day to day chores around the persons house.
May be I don’t know the person but I can find a way to send a message of hope, care and love.