“If I want my kids to spend time with me when I am older, then I have to spend time with them when they are younger”, is a phrase I said to myself and to Kathy over the past 20 years. Foundations are hidden but are crucial to what can be built. Once the foundation is built, you never need to return to it, if it was built well. One of the dangers in life in general is that we ignore the planning and hard work to lay those foundations. We want to jump straight to building what can be seen! As I reflect I see there are “foundation principles”. These are different for various topics but are crucial for solid outcomes. As I read over some of the stories I have written about Mike, as I look at the depth of relationship I have with Akila and my relationship with Laura, I can see the fruit of laying foundations in those relationships. Two of several principles are time and making memories.
A comment Kathy and I have heard several times over the past two years is “I admire you, I dont know how I would cope”, or a similar type of comment. As I have pondered over this, I realise again “foundation principles”. If we had not laid a solid spiritual foundation, then when the storm hit, the house would have been destroyed. To be honest, I cannot remember saying to myself, “I’m going to build a solid spiritual foundation”! Number 1, I am far to carnal for that and secondly its not the way I think. There are again several spiritual “foundation principles” and we have practiced those, some times not very well. My friend Mike Hey says, “Sometimes I’m on the surf board on the wave and other times I’m tumbling in the wave, but either way I am moving forward”! Thats been my spiritual story. Some refer to these principles as “pillars”, or “legs” on which we stand or sit.
So whats my point! As I look at the difference between something that is solid and has remained for years and something that has been destroyed, I wonder how much time was invested in the foundations. Were the “pillars” identified before building and then once identified built? When I look and see something that is functioning but not thriving, I wonder how deep are the foundations.
I am grateful for the relationship foundations I have with Akila, Laura and Kathy. I still need to do maintenance on those. I am grateful for the people who mentored me and taught me the pillars of spiritual foundation. Without these foundations there is no support for other areas I want to build.