At present I am visiting the Logos Hope Ship in India. Its so wonderful to meet many friends whom I have worked with during the past 30 years on one of our ships or another.
Family is very important in Indian culture and in many respects it is central to society here. In many of our cultures, the emphasis is on the individual. So a common question here is about my family and how many children do I have, even in shops, people are interested in your nationality and family. So the reoccurring question is, “How many children do you have?”.
Today is 22 months since Mike left us. So whilst I have had to grapple with this question on occasions in the UK, here in India I have to grapple with it several times a day. I am totally frustrated that I do not know how to answer. The easiest is to say I have two girls, but then its not true and I feel every time I am rejecting and dishonouring Mike. But if I say I have 3 Children and they start to ask more questions, it now gets more complicated to answer. Its not all bad because more often than not, it opens the door to talk about spiritual issues and the question of what we believe will happen to our souls after we die. I am passionate about that topic and so accept the painful bridge I walk over to move from family to eternity.