What a great friend and partner I have in Kathy!

Kath and I are so grateful that we do not have any baggage around Mike’s death, i.e. it wasnt that she or I were doing anything that either directly or indirectly casued his death. So there is no blame. We are also grateful that we both have the same approach to our Christian faith and do not have one of us wanting to thow in the towel and the other seeing God’s hand in this. Kathy has been a source of strength and wisdom to me at this time. She has the ability to listen to all my ramblings as I process thoughts. Her solid understanding of the Bible has been an even keel to me. Her primary mode of operation is more spiritual and mine more carnal, I mean practical! During this time I have had a couple of very melancholy moments. Both times she has taken me out on walks and helped me get my head above water. Its very easy for me after 23 years of marriage to take her for granted. I punched her on the arm yesterday saying “my mate”. I know, you women would of advised a loving arm around and a “I love you”.! I am aware that times like this can lead to separation so I am very grateful that the opposite is true up till now and we pray that continues to be the case. So I have decided not to trade her in for a younger model at this time but I have suggested a few repairs and touch ups!!!!!us

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2 Responses to What a great friend and partner I have in Kathy!

  1. Su Brown says:

    A lot of us are ‘myth-informed’ about love and marriage. The myth of a ‘perfect marriage’ is widespread and dangerous among us. By setting up unrealistic expectations, impossible dreams and magic thinking, it misinforms, misleads and disillusions us, preparing us to walk away the moment our fantasy clashes with reality. Only the truth can make us free to find fulfilment in our marriage. The first marriage myth, the myth of ‘viral love,’ insists that love is caught, much like a virus. ‘Some enchanted evening’when you happen to be in the right place at the right time, it will zap you. You’ll ‘catch the bug’ and enter a lifetime of unending bliss! The trouble is, when we’re worn out taking care of three children, two jobs and a second mortgage, the ‘virus’ subsides. In the whirlwind of dishes, nappies and daily routines, something has to give. So romance vacates centre stage and reality takes over. When it does, we confuse romance for true love and mistakenly think it has moved out and that we need to follow it.The truth is, love does not die because romance bows to reality. If two people who once ‘fell’ in love are willing to ‘stand’ together in love through the challenges and opportunities of family life, romance can grow again, stronger and more resilient than ever. Love based solely on romance doesn’t work when ‘for better’ meets ‘for worse’. Romance based on a decision to love ’til death do us part’ is the only love that’s dependable, consistent and trustworthy. Romance brings us together this kind of love keeps us together!

  2. Rosemary Morris says:

    well done you two for saying you want the space. Understood, and much appreciated your honesty. Glad to stand with you in whatever way appropriate.

    As always,

    Rosemary Morris

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