My friend lost his daughter in a drowning accident and I like the way he said “I have 4 daughters, 3 with me and one has gone on ahead”. When I heard him say that in public this year, sub consciously I thought if I was ever in that position I wonder what I would say and whether I would use his line. He phoned me shortly after Mike left us and I asked him about that statement. He said that dependent on the context and time available he had a couple of responses.
I have been thinking about this but not really come to a formulate agreement with myself. Then Kathy, the girls and I were in an art shop and in the discussion with the shop assistant; she asked if I had a son.
The lady asks do I have a son, Oh know its already begun. All confused what do I say, Do I lie to avoid the pain. What happens if I have to explain? My son has left and gone ahead, Or is it easier to just say “he is dead”? The words I hear in my head, Is I have 2 girls here and a boy that’s gone ahead.